When I was very young (and could get away with being a brat), I destroyed a piece of knitting. A gift, actually, from my paternal grandmother, Grandma Moore. She used to send us these big Christmas packages, with homemade cookies, candy, toys, and other gifts. I can still remember the taste of her mince meat cookies, my favorite thing in the whole box. One year, there was a pair of slippers for each of us. I think Penny got pink, Daniel got red, Ben got blue, and Carrie probably got purple (Carrie always got purple, even though it was my favorite color). Mine were variegated green, bright bright green. They were too big, and too slippery. I couldn’t really walk in them without falling over.
Kinda like these, only GREENER
I thought about just hiding them until I could grow out of them. Yep, even when I was about 4 years old, I knew how to buck the system. But that strategy came with one particular risk: Mom could find them. And so I killed them. Now, I can’t exactly remember what I did. Maybe I just cut them up, maybe I ripped them apart, maybe I buried them alive in the back yard. Maybe I tried to blame it on one of the cats. Whatever happened, I destroyed them.
Looking back on this incident, I realize how selfish it was. Why couldn’t I have been grateful? Why didn’t I keep the slippers, which I would look back on now (or even wear, because my feet haven’t grown much since then) and think of my Grandma Moore?
Now, as a Knitter, I understand the kind of work that goes into a pair of slippers like that. There’s casting on, knitting, purling, decreasing, perhaps a bit of increasing, binding off. And then all the finishing: weaving in ends, sewing seams, constructing and attaching pom poms. It’s work. It doesn’t happen in an instant. If I’m working fast, I can do a pair in an hour, depending on the pattern. But that’s still an hour of my Grandma Moore’s precious time that she devoted just to me. She thought about me as she crafted every stitch. As she put the objects in a box to send to us for Christmas, she probably said a little prayer, hoping that the items would find us safe and warm up our holidays.
I did a lot of knitting for kids. Some of the items I know will be well received because they are simple and look like what you might find in the stores. Others of them… not so much. I’m worried about the toys that came out a little… unique. The hats that came out a little… wonky. The shirts that aren’t necessarily the right size or proportions. I’m worried that the kids I send my work to won’t like it. They can be really harsh critics, you know?
Will they hate the colors? The fit? The pattern or embellishments? Will they kill my knitting without even giving it a chance? Will they ever understand the time and effort I put into my work?
I know that I will never meet them. They will never get a chance to say, “Thanks,” and that’s not what I’m after. But I can’t help knitting these worries into my work (because I truly believe that a piece of knitting contains and conveys emotions and thoughts).
Maybe I’m overthinking it. Just because I was a bit ungrateful as a child doesn’t mean all kids are the same way. Even better, I’m fairly certain that Grandma Moore never knew what happened to those slippers (and never will, unless she reads this post). She had the luxury her whole life of believing that they were well received, well cared for, and loved very much. And I’m going to believe the same thing about my objects.